Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made.
Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves
how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens,
and how much risk they are willing to take.
It is indeed a fearful gamble.
Because it is the nature of love to create,
a marriage itself is something which has to be created.
If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not,
as many people think,
a rejection of freedom;
rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom,
and the risk of love which is permanent;
into that love which is not possession, but participation...
of that co-creation which is our human calling.
From The Irrational Season (Madeleine L'Engle)